Just Say “No”
After being the biggest monster ever before she went to bed last night, Liliana slept the whole night through. Without a peep. Until 6:00 am. She made one peep and then slept until 7:45 am. God knew that Noah and I needed a little break from her.
Tonight I thought I would take advantage of my sleeping babies and take pictures of them. While I was doing that, I had scenes playing in my head of some creep taking pictures of me when I was sleeping and it kind of freaked me out.
Yes, I am crazy.
There wasn’t quite enough light in Liliana’s room, and a flash would (1) wake her up and (2) totally ruin the picture I wanted to take.
There was enough light spilling into Kaylie’s room though.

Kaylie usually has five or ten million puppies sleeping with her at night. She tells me that she’s praying that I will not be allergic to dogs and cats anymore so that we can get one.
I’m sorry to say that is not the only thing stopping us from getting an animal, but maybe her prayers will lead us there sometime.
God CAN do anything, right?
Right.
I do not have the ability to say “no”. Unless it is to my children. Or my husband. It is a bad habit of mine.
“Hey Jen, can you help me with this?” “Hey Jen, can you do this one little thing for me?” “Hey Jen, are you going to be involved in this?”
Yes! Of course! I can do that!
I have a hard time turning things down. I like helping people. I like doing things that I am good at. I like being involved in things. But? Days are limited to 24 hours.
I took a couple days off from blogging at the beginning of this week (thus a couple boring posts) because I wanted a couple days off from everything.
I find that the more I say “Yes!” to things, the more stressed I get. The more stressed I get, the more my family suffers. The more my family suffers, the guiltier I feel.
It’s a vicious cycle.
So? What am I going to do about it?
Learn to say no. I started already. I was involved in a ministry on Fridays that I am taking a break from. I work on Fridays and I was taking time off from work to be involved in the ministry. I was making up the time later, and it was taking time away from my family. Some work wasn’t getting done. At work and at home.
So? I said “no”. I feel relieved. I really enjoyed the ministry, and I’ll continue to pray for it to thrive.
I’ve heard it said that it is better to do a few things well than to do a lot of things poorly. That hit the nail on the head. I am spreading myself too thin, which means that I am not giving 100% to everything that I am doing.
My family deserves 100% of what I can give them, don’t you think?
Me too.



what a beautiful picture!! i love how kaylie is a bit blurred, but the puppy is clear..looks like a great scrapbook page to me!
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Glad you are going to work on saying no!
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good for you! I totally understand the need to take a few days off from the world. :)
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That’s a super cute picture.
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It’s the good things that always wreck the best things… good for you for saying no. I’ve had to learn how to do this too.. I didn’t have much of a choice though, if I didn’t say no my husband would ;)
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I can totally understand you here. But sometimes ‘just saying no’ is a lot harder than we plan it out to be. You’re right though, family really does need 100% from us, and it’s not fair when we turn into monsters because we’re wearing ourselves out for all the miscellaneous people/projects/places that we get ourselves involved in. ‘Enjoying your blog. I’m in BC too.
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